Originally Posted by
Carnation
I was referring to myself Sue, but I did note that you had a similar upbringing.
I too was unplanned and also spent most of my life trying to make my parents proud.
Anything I achieved was not really noted or celebrated and just assumed in the end that they had no love for me at all.
It was always another family member or someone up the street they would comment on how well they had done, but never me.
Until, I saved my mum's life. She collapsed in the hallway just weeks before her 80th and I brought her round and my father stood frozen just watching me, not saying anything at all. The next day he said, "I'm really proud of you, I wanted you to know that". That was the only time.
So I sort of had something to prove to myself, the bosses I worked for, the staff I managed. I had to be the best!
As for your sister Sue, it is unfortunate that you have a sibling that is not the relationship that we all wish for. And you might even think she despises you. But I've learned that people can be cruel when actually they are jealous. Try to bear that in mind. It would also explain the bullying.
The other reason could be down to she is hiding issues of her own. If you say, "she's just a horrible person", there will be an underlying reason for that. A reason you may never know. But it's not you, its how she perceives you for what ever reason that is. x